MJ’s Musings: Talking to Your Family

When my children were young, we had a habit of dinner together every night. No TV, no radio. Each meal began with a toast, “Happy <<insert day of the week>>.” Then we went around the table and shared one good thing that happened to us that day. We ate we talked, we shared the low points as well as the high points of our days. Often times it was the only chance we had to reconnect as a family.

When X-Chromo (the youngest) invited a friend over for taco Tuesday, we didn’t alter our habit. Her friend was shocked that we conversed. And laughed. At her house, her parents listened to NPR during meals, and there was no talking allowed.

I was stunned. I understand not every parents’ workday mirrored ours. I knew other parents did other things with their children, running them to and from activities and such. But to not allow them to speak at a meal so they could listen to the radio outraged me.

We enjoyed discussing current events with our children. We would explain why famous people who had died were important. When drama club would select a play, we would discuss the realities behind the play. We tried to teach them history and why it is important to know.

I’m glad we did meal time our way, and I hope my children are, too.

 

Even now that we are empty nesters, TV Stevie and I still do “One Good Thing” when we manage to sit down together for dinner.

MJ Monday: MJ’s Movies: The Mark of Zorro

I went on a long writing retreat in May. We were gone on May 4 (Star Wars Day) and May 5 (Cinco de Mayo). Being the total geeks we are, we decided to cook corresponding meals and watch relative movies on those two days.

Star Wars went off without a hitch.

We planned to watch The Mask of Zorro (with Antonio Banderas and Catherine Zeta-Jones) from 1998 for Cinco de Mayo, even though the movie has nothing to do with Mexico or the battle commemorated on that date. But someone accidentally grabbed a colorized version of  the 1940 The Mark of Zorro (Tyrone Power, Basil Rathbone, Linda Darnell) from the library. We decided to watch it anyway.

Parts of the movie  reminded several of us of The Scarlet Pimpernel. At one point, someone shouted, “Look! It’s the Dread Pirate Roberts!” (The Princess Bride).  Regardless, we laughed and enjoyed this gem of a motion picture. Tyrone Power was a dashing hero. Linda Darnell was insipid, but because the character was written that way.  Basil Rathbone was a delightful villain.

If you get a chance to see this movie, I highly recommend it.

 

MJ’s Musings: “Do You Have Change for a Twenty?”

I dread having someone ask me this question.

People like me, who use ATMs, always have too many twenty dollar bills.  I’m fortunate that my bank’s ATM has an option with $5 increments, so when I withdraw cash, I make sure it’s $35 or $55 or $75 dollars. (If you take out $95, you get a $50, which sucks worse than a $20, especially since the McDonald’s next door will no longer accept $50 or $100 bills .)

So yeah, I usually do have change for a twenty in my wallet.

But if I make change for you, then I’m stuck with your $20, which defeats the purpose of my banking strategy.  And lately, it seems as if I’m asked if I can break a twenty a lot.

I need to start lying, and others need to change banks.

#UpbeatAuthors: Support Your Local Library

My husband likes movies. He was a cinema major in college. He buys movies. Nearly every week, a package comes in the mail. More movies! We will never be able to watch all the movies in our house that are still in their cellophane in our lifetimes. We’re too busy trying to watch what’s on the DVR so he can record more.

Me? When there’s a movie I really want to see, I check the library’s website. That way, my tax dollars continue to work for me, I’m supporting a wonderful service to the community, and I don’t have to find a place to store the DVD after I’ve finished watching the movie.

I’m a voracious reader. But I’ve become very selective about what I purchase, as I have run out of space for books. Yes, I have an e-reader. Right now, I have three of them, not counting my Kindle for PC. Doesn’t matter. It makes more sense to borrow a book from the library. I can download from both my local library system and the New York City Public Library system.

Using the library costs me nothing but my tax dollars, which I have to pay anyway. Why not take advantage of it?

 

 

 

 

#UpbeatAuthors: Tolerance

I recently had a chance to speak to a person I see only once a year. Spence* is a great guy. He always asks after my son, whom he’d met years ago when Y-Chromo was a child. Spence got married since I’d last seen him. He’s been with Ronald* for ten years, and they finally tied the knot. Spence was practically giddy when he introduced his husband to those of us who see him only in August. I’m very happy for them.

Just because their lifestyle isn’t my lifestyle doesn’t make them wrong or me right. If I judged people because they are different than me, I would miss out on having a lot of wonderful people in my life.

*names changed