#UpbeatAuthors: Gratitude

When TV Stevie and I first got married, we started sharing “one good thing” before we ate supper each night. As our family grew (and became verbal), the children joined us in the sharing. It is as automatic as breathing for us to say, when we sit for our evening meal, “My one good thing is…”

Good things are our blessings.

Gratitude, according to my faith, requires acknowledging the blessings which are a part of our lives.  There is no limit to what we don’t have, so it is better to inventory what we do have.  Take nothing for granted, from the opening of our eyes in the morning, to closing them at night. Each moment in between is an opportunity to count our blessings.

Thanksgiving shouldn’t be one day in November where we overeat and watch football (or slave in the kitchen cooking, then cleaning up), but a daily practice.

I am blessed.

 

 

 

Childhood Treasures

Who remembers S&H Green Stamps? They’re still around, but they now call themselves S&H Greenpoints. For uninitiated, they were given away as “value added”  at service (gas) stations, supermarkets and so on. The more one spent, the more stamps one earned. One then pasted them into little books. The books could be redeemed for merchandise.

A trip to the S&H store was always a treat. (Okay, I lived in the middle of nowhere with a mother who didn’t drive. A trip anywhere was a treat.) There are two visits to the S&H redemption center I vividly recall. The first was when I laid eyes on a lamp. A beautiful lamp. A lamp any little girl would adore. I begged, pleaded, cajoled, etc. And the next trip to the store–after the family had accumulated enough stamps–was to procure that lamp for my bedroom.

You see, the girl on the swing actually swings. It moves. I was fascinated.

And yes, I still have the lamp. Right now, it has no shade. The original shade is long gone, probably scorched from tilting to get more reading light. The second shade is also gone. I believe I tossed it because it was in tatters. I’ve been looking for a replacement, but no luck yet.

The lamp has history. I shared a room with my sister. One morning, I woke up to a nasty smell and a weird crackling noise. I sat up and saw the cord sparking. I screamed for my sister to unplug the lamp (she was closest to the outlet). Then I screamed at her not to touch it. Back and forth until my father came into the room and handled the situation. He discovered a puddle near the sparking portion of the cord. After a brief examination, he concluded the cat had bitten the cord and had the pee shocked out of him. Dad replaced the cord and all was well.

My sister wrote her name on the underside of the little girl’s skirt in a misguided attempt to the claim the lamp for herself. Ha! I’m the one who gave birth a daughter, and my daughter had the lamp in her room for many years. It now resides in my office with a black light bulb in the socket.

A lamp with a swinging girl was a big deal back then. A treasure. My parents saved to get the lamp for me. We didn’t have computers, electronic games,  or even more than one television in the house (and only two channels at the time). I had decks of cards, board games, a back yard, and cousins.  And it was all so very, very special.

 

Be Kind to Your Mind

The brain needs new challenges in order to keep learning and adapting.

Here are a few ideas, ranging from the simple to ones that require a bit more investment.

Jumpstart your brain by

  • rearranging your desk drawers
  • driving to work via a different route.

Challenge your mind with stimulating activities such as:

  • puzzles
  • brain teasers
  • arts and crafts.

Use the “wrong” hand to open your bottle of water.

Instead of reaching for your calculator, do mental math.

Learn a new language.

Learn how to play a musical instrument.

Turn your shopping list into a rhyming poem.

Laugh out loud twice a day (up to five different areas of the brain get into the action when we laugh).

Be curious.

Anything that you do out of the norm engages the brain.

Bread Bags

I have recently taken to wearing plastic bags inside my snow boots. They make the boots easier to get on and they add a layer of insulation. Someone, when they saw me doing this, cracked: “You need Wonderbread bags, not grocery bags, like we used when we were kids.”

Except in my family, we didn’t eat Wonderbread. We were a Millbrook family. There was a Millbrook bread bakery on the north side of the city. One could smell the bread baking when whizzing by on the interstate. My Girl Scout troop took a tour of the factory, where we learned that at least part of their advertising campaign was true: Millbrook Bread was baked to music.

 

What is Love?

People have been chasing love forever. This guy, Ovid, has most of the tricks in his book, which was written 2AD.

Just ask this guy.

Which is all fine and well if seduction and sex is all you’re looking for. But I think our culture too often confuses sex with love.

My faith teaches that “love” is “giving.” In our true relationships, there is mutual giving. Giving allows us to connect, creates, and sustains love. No relationship can endure without giving of ourselves.

Yeah, sex (in a sense) is giving, but love is deeper. More abiding.

 

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